Being in a verbally abusive relationship or situation may be scary, and may seem like you can't get out of it, but there are always a way to, whether you believe it or not. I have never been in this situation before, but these things I write may be something that could help.
Verbally:
Tell them you don't like what they are doing and saying, because there are times they may not know what they are doing, or that it could be hurting you. If that doesn't work, you need to go to the police and let them handle the situation. You need to get away from the person as soon as possible.
If you are the one who is verbally abusing someone, you need to stop! All you are causing is pain to those around you. The reason why you are taking your anger out on someone is probably because of something that has happened in your past that really impacted you in a negative way. Instead of taking your anger out on people, you should use that bad experience and use it to grow from. Just tell yourself "I don't want to do that to other people." or "I don't want this experience to continue down to my family, so I got to do what I have to do for it to not happen." Please don't take your anger out on others. If you have been verbally abusive to someone, and you wish to stop but don't know how, you need to get yourself into counseling. Also, apologizing to the person you've hurt may be a wise choice. If you are going to apologize, do so in person because there is nothing better than to show that you are truly sorry by actually facing your problems in a mature way. It also shows that you are ready to take any consequence for your action. If you are a religious person, you also would probably consider to talk to your leader from church, or a person "higher" than you, and they'll take you to the road you need to go.
Sexual:
If you've been in a forced sexual situation, you need to do everything you can to get away from them. Go tell an adult you trust and let them handle the situation. (The adult needs to call the cops.) If the person who is abusing you threatens you that they'd do something to you if you told anyone, don't pay attention to what they said. Go to an adult anyways. You're in much danger if they take control of the situation and not you. What the abuser did to you is not your fault, and this is something important you need to know, because often times people feel as if they were the reason as to why it happened, which is completely false. The person who did it obviously is mentally ill and needs help or can't control their behavior. After you get it situated with the cops, you may want to go to counseling. Counseling will help you get your feelings out and it will be the first step to be able to get cured from the pain. Of coarse you won't recover fast, but you do have to put all your effort in trying to recover.
If you are someone who has sexually abused someone, there is a lot that describes you. You are mentally ill, angry, someone who is sick of not getting what they want, prideful, sad, and someone who doesn't know how to control their feelings and situations. You feel like the only way you can get control of something is if you control a person, and have them do what you want them to do. The only solution you have to better yourself is to turn yourself into the police. You may not like the idea, but it is the only solution you have.
(A little “rough draft” I wrote. I know it may not sound as good, or it may sound cheesy, but I wrote down whatever popped into my head at first, and what I felt was needed to be said.)
-AIMEE VARGAS
Verbally:
Tell them you don't like what they are doing and saying, because there are times they may not know what they are doing, or that it could be hurting you. If that doesn't work, you need to go to the police and let them handle the situation. You need to get away from the person as soon as possible.
If you are the one who is verbally abusing someone, you need to stop! All you are causing is pain to those around you. The reason why you are taking your anger out on someone is probably because of something that has happened in your past that really impacted you in a negative way. Instead of taking your anger out on people, you should use that bad experience and use it to grow from. Just tell yourself "I don't want to do that to other people." or "I don't want this experience to continue down to my family, so I got to do what I have to do for it to not happen." Please don't take your anger out on others. If you have been verbally abusive to someone, and you wish to stop but don't know how, you need to get yourself into counseling. Also, apologizing to the person you've hurt may be a wise choice. If you are going to apologize, do so in person because there is nothing better than to show that you are truly sorry by actually facing your problems in a mature way. It also shows that you are ready to take any consequence for your action. If you are a religious person, you also would probably consider to talk to your leader from church, or a person "higher" than you, and they'll take you to the road you need to go.
Sexual:
If you've been in a forced sexual situation, you need to do everything you can to get away from them. Go tell an adult you trust and let them handle the situation. (The adult needs to call the cops.) If the person who is abusing you threatens you that they'd do something to you if you told anyone, don't pay attention to what they said. Go to an adult anyways. You're in much danger if they take control of the situation and not you. What the abuser did to you is not your fault, and this is something important you need to know, because often times people feel as if they were the reason as to why it happened, which is completely false. The person who did it obviously is mentally ill and needs help or can't control their behavior. After you get it situated with the cops, you may want to go to counseling. Counseling will help you get your feelings out and it will be the first step to be able to get cured from the pain. Of coarse you won't recover fast, but you do have to put all your effort in trying to recover.
If you are someone who has sexually abused someone, there is a lot that describes you. You are mentally ill, angry, someone who is sick of not getting what they want, prideful, sad, and someone who doesn't know how to control their feelings and situations. You feel like the only way you can get control of something is if you control a person, and have them do what you want them to do. The only solution you have to better yourself is to turn yourself into the police. You may not like the idea, but it is the only solution you have.
(A little “rough draft” I wrote. I know it may not sound as good, or it may sound cheesy, but I wrote down whatever popped into my head at first, and what I felt was needed to be said.)
-AIMEE VARGAS
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